Interlude 1

02 May

Even though I am not a mama yet, I am presently blessed with four nephews and a niece (Thank God for my niece, with the way my siblings kept popping out boys, I wondered if we were ever going to get a girl in the family). So it’s been a joy just watching the kids grow and seeing how a person’s character takes shape. I am fortunate to spend plenty of time with two of my nephews and my niece  (my sisters’ kids). Both my nephews, practically growing up in the house, although of different parents, could not be more different. The first, Di, who just turned three, is a born politician, very diplomatic. I’ll give you an instance in a minute. My second nephew, Yem, who will be two in July, is a born entertainer.

Di, my very own little politician is amazingly tactful (at least for a 3 years old). Usually I let the boys play with my gadgets (I am not a geek, in case you were wondering). When my nephew started making calls with my phone and of course not saying anything, I became more careful. Once when he wanted my phone, he came to me and said ‘lady T (and yes I make them call me that **smiles**), Yem wants to play with your phone’, Yem just wants to jump about the place and is not the least bit interested in the phone. However, Di has employed Yem to do his bidding to gauge my reaction and ensure he doesn’t get into trouble. Unfortunately for him, I was unto him (and yes, I don’t mind playing my own games), so I said ‘of course, Yem can have it’. Yem takes the phone because for him it is just another distraction, which would most probably last for 10 minutes. Di, who thinks he has won stage 1 (actually, I have **winks**) of successfully getting the phone from me, then moves to stage 2, which is getting the phone from Yem (what he doesn’t realize is that is a harder stage than the previous). Ideally,he could just wait for Yem to lose interest, and then take over, but he is 3 and doesn’t realize that, so he tried to enforce his seniority by taking it from Yem. However, this doesn’t go as planned; so he came back to me and said ‘lady T, Yem does not want to share’. Normally, because I try to teach them how to share, he expected me to say, ‘Yem please share with your cousin; let him play with the phone too’. But I was unto him and said ‘Yem asked for it, you didn’t’ **laughs**; so got him.

Yem, on the other hand, my own little entertainer is just fun to watch (at least on a good day). He is exhausting, highly adventurous, which is a nice way of saying, constantly all over the place. Yem has tried everything; Mechanical Engineering: repairing the generator by turning Engine oil all over the place and connecting two fuel hoses together; Weight lifting: carrying a ten litres gallon of fuel (which ended up on his body); Electrical Engineering (constantly trying to screw all the wall sockets off the wall); Cleaning (throwing dirt on the ground and demanding for a broom and dirt packer to clean it up); Laundry Man (plugging in an electrical iron and wanting to iron the carpet off the ground); Musician (singing off an empty book, up and around the house); Dancing (He is a good dancer, I am not sure how he learns all the steps he is constantly dancing); Football, Stand up comedy etc; my list is endless.

So yes, these are my little men. My niece is still a little baby (just 8 months), she displays her self every now and then but for now I will let her be.

I do intend to share my experiences of the next generation (Tagged Interlude) with y’all from time to time. Hopefully, you all can see why children are such a blessing; they are constantly entertaining you (without asking for permission or caring if you are in the mood or not). Maybe I can just entertain you and if you are in the mood for a deeper sense, you can see how three kids nurtured in the same environment, grow into different persons with individual characters. While values and beliefs may be closely related, personality and character quite different. It is a classic case of nature versus nurture. So please stay tuned…


Posted by on May 2, 2013 in Interludes: The next generation


6 responses to “Interlude 1

  1. tito

    May 2, 2013 at 11:27 am

    First time to comment. Wooohooooo!! .
    So true,Tuokpe. Very interesting read. Had me rolling at the part where u wrote that u make them call you ‘Lady T’.
    Its really a case of nature versus nurture. In most cases, even identical twins have different personalities.

    Keep the writings coming. So very interesting and thought-provoking

  2. journalofacomplexmind

    May 3, 2013 at 11:25 am

    Thanks Tito, glad I made you laugh and hopefully we will see more of you

  3. lunartsd

    May 8, 2013 at 8:40 am

    Sounds like you’re having a lot of fun with your small army of nephews and niece! They sound like very intelligent kids, cos they’re already showing traits of their future personalities.

    I don’t know much about kids, but I do know that their mental growth is highly dependent on the kind of mental stimulation they get from the grownups around them. So, while their personalities and characters may be defined by nature, they’re also very much influenced by the nurture given to them by the grownups that raise them (don’t worry, I’m not going to start an argument about “nature vs nurture”!). So don’t be surprised if one of them starts writing journals very soon– with crayons and the kitchen wall, of course!

    • journalofacomplexmind

      May 8, 2013 at 11:42 am

      Wouldn’t I just like them writing journals, maybe, even books, but definitely not on the kitchen walls please!!!!!

      I couldn’t agree more on nature and nurture taking its effect here so I wouldn’t be arguing with you here.

      • lunartsd

        May 8, 2013 at 7:55 pm

        Maybe not on the kitchen walls, but some wall or the other is gonna get it! Cos all kids write on walls, so don’t say I didn’t warn you! But it’s nothing a coat of paint won’t cover up.


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