28 Jan

I recently had an experience that was both annoying and funny. About a week ago, my colleague and I went into an office to see a prospective client. It was one of those offices where you had to get through the secretary (we had previously met her and she seemed nice enough).

Before I continue, it is important that I describe how the three parties (the secretary, my colleague and I) were dressed (Not very good at descriptions, but will try my best). My colleague is a tall (about “5.8”) lady wearing a high heeled shoe and a knee-length, black dress. Her hair woven back with extensions  (What Nigerians call Ghana weaving) and her face in light make-up (Dare I say, appropriate for a work day).  I was wearing a long tailored trousers, a turtle-neck green top with short sleeves, black front-covered heeled shoe and light makeup as well. The secretary, on the other hand, is probably in her late 40’s or early 50’s, wearing a loose shirt and a black skirt (not too sure about the skirt), no make-up and has her hair, low cut (What my fellow Nigerians would term as the typical ‘Deeper Life’ look. *No criticism intended*).

So we approach the secretary, of course indicating our purpose for visit. After speaking to her, for some reason (best known to her), she hands us each a religious leaflet with content along the lines of ‘give your life to Christ’. I take it from her because I don’t want to appear rude (You never piss off the secretary) but not before I raise  a brow.

We go back into the reception to wait and just to make sure I haven’t come to a wrong conclusion, I mention it to my colleague, to gauge her own interpretation, which of course, coincides with mine. We look around at the others waiting in the reception (all men), to see if they have this leaflet as well and not surprisingly, they don’t. Apparently, she (the secretary) thinks my colleague and I need saving from damnation and the men do not. In my opinion and by ‘social standard’, we were dressed decently and appropriately enough  (trust me, I know what ‘indecent’ looks like), so I am still not sure what motivated this notion.

Being me, all this action had succeeded in doing, was reminding me of a bigger societal issue where people have preconceived views of people and hold them to their own standard (never mind that this standard does nothing for you).  My colleague also pointed out that this act is in fact more common among women who have an idealistic view. Scratch the term ‘idealistic’ because there is nothing so perfect and reaching about a view that says to be a christianly and virtuous women, I should walk around looking as pitifully as possible, especially when I am honest enough to admit I can’t pull it off. I am not one to pass judgement on how people choose to exercise their religion (I choose the term ‘religion’ and not ‘Christianity’ with all intent),  even though I am of a different view and belief. However, I think it is unbecoming, never mind, both hilarious and annoying that someone should hold others to their personal and stereotypical views, never mind, ill-conceived (that’s my opinion).


Posted by on January 28, 2014 in Uncategorized


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5 responses to “THE ‘LEAFLET’ EXPERIENCE

  1. Ormainy

    February 3, 2014 at 3:31 pm

    LOL, this happens everyday! It’s shameful that it is mostly women who judge other women. Keep your judgements aside and be real… It’s never that serious. If God can love us with all our sins who are we to judge others? Religion is definitely not Christianity. Religion= pharisees and Saducees. Christianity is what God wants from us, loving without judging. She wasted her tracts on two girls who already knew Christ and overlooked potiential christians in the men.

  2. lunartsd

    February 3, 2014 at 7:32 pm

    Maybe she also gave tracts to the guys and they just threw them straight in the trash. Or she just felt more comfortable giving them out to women. Don’t be so quick to judge her either. She might actually be giving out tracks to everyone who comes her way. It doesn’t necessarily mean she thinks you need salvation.

    And then again… you might be totally right. Whichever way, so long as your conscience is clear, no one can ever bring you down.

    • journalofacomplexmind

      February 3, 2014 at 9:24 pm

      Maybe you are right and she did. But in that moment, I felt judged and sentenced. Nevertheless, it didn’t bring me down, just irritated and entertained me.

      • lunartsd

        February 6, 2014 at 4:46 am

        Such incidents can really get on your nerves. But people who judge others do so out
        of ignorance. Once in a while, whenever there’s the opportunity, try to enlighten them
        on how wrong they are. You just might end up bringing salvation to them.
        Ironic isn’t it?!

        • journalofacomplexmind

          February 6, 2014 at 9:55 am

          Hahahaha! Maybe will try that next time although not with the secretary; like I said, you never piss off the secretary.


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