Have you ever wondered if everything about you i.e your personality, your life, basically, a cloned version of yourself was put in another person and you were faced with the choice of marrying that person, if you would?
I have been asked that question repeatedly and my answer always changes. Today, I could say yes, of course I would want to marry someone as kind, caring, with deep appreciation for people especially family and a romantic (Yes! I am all of these and more **winks**) . I understand my emotions and mind better than anyone. It would be a winning deal.
But then, on the other hand, I recognize how dramatic, impatient, stubborn and opinionated, I can get; and of course, my answer changes to
Hell No! There is no way I want to marry the dramatic, impatient, stubborn version of me; wayyyyyy too much for me to handle.
With the number of times my answer changes, I guess the real answer is I don’t bloody know! As such, it is a brilliant thing then, that I will never be faced with this decision.
Moreover, they say that one of the beauties of Love and relationship is finding someone who is willing to love ALL of you and be with ALL of you; the good, bad and ugly. He/She sees that you are stubborn, impatient, dramatic and so on, but in all, still CHOOSE to be with you. Because, the fact remains, there isn’t anyone without faults; it is what makes us human and interesting.
In the words of John Legend (Totally Loveeee and Adoreeee him by the way), ‘All of me loves all of you, Love your curves and all your edges, all your perfect imperfections’. In these words lie my consolation, I will never have to be stuck with the decision of marrying me and hopefully, someone will be able to, despise all my faults which I totally admit to and even own.
Bottom line, I am not perfect and I don’t have to be; Perfection is boring!!
Secondly, I can’t marry me but then I don’t have to!
And like Marilyn Monroe said ‘I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”