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So like most people on the planet, I too have followed the Kim Kardashian saga to a reliable extent.

In the days following Kim K’s picture on Paper Magazine, the world has become judge and jury on Kim Kardashian’s life; her role as a wife, mother, celebrity and even a human being.

Everyone has something to say and in the very process, doing what Kim K had hoped to achieve – Breaking the Internet with her name! If Kim cannot be applauded for anything, she should be applauded for being a shrewd businesswoman; she will do whatever it takes to get people talking and mount up her cash (Plenty of it), after all, it is said there isn’t such a thing as bad publicity and she does know how to work it, so we all just keep talking.

Nevertheless, Kim K’s business skills isn’t my focus for this post. It has always amazed me how the world can be so da** hypocritical (If I am honest, I, too, am sometimes). We have ideals that we hold other people to, which would be just fine (Well, not really), but the big problem is that we do not hold everyone accountable to these ideals. It’s amazing the way our mind decides whether we like people or not (Most often, irrationally) and many a time, our judgements of people’s actions are motivated by how we feel about them. The same folks who have been so quick to throw the daggers at Kim K for her nudity are same very folks who make excuses for others. It is okay when artistes show up half naked (Without leaving much to our imagination) for a concert or whatever. Because they are Beyoncé, Nikki Minaj and many other famous artistes we like, it becomes okay. ‘Oh! She is performing!’ ‘Oh! She isn’t exactly naked’, ‘Oh! She is just an icon, exceptional, fabulous’ and all the other adjectives. The excuses to exempt one person from our not so perfect ideals just start rolling it. It is so da** hypocritical! Since we all have our ideals, why not hold everyone to the same standard?

Make no mistake, I do not applaud Kim K’s picture but on the other hand, I do not not applaud it. It is basically none of my business!!! Whether or not, she decides to display herself wearing nothing but her birthday suit is only the business of Kim K, Kanye, and her family. If it bothers you a lot, close the page like you may or may not do with other inappropriate pictures on the internet! The fact remains, same people who have criticized Kim K are probably same people buying the magazines and searching the net to get a glimpse (In secret I may add). Nudity prevails and sells because people buy! So if everyone is criticizing, who exactly is buying?

Another fact (Sad as it may be), the media these days is filled with nudity, obscenities of one sort or the other. We don’t pick what to criticize and what not to! Half naked women and men sell more than fully clothed ones. It is the reality of the modern day television and the world in general.

So if Kim K decides she is more than ready to join the race, her business (with BUSINESS emphasized). People shouldn’t sit in the comfort of their homes and act as judge and jury, after first looking their fill, then go on to criticize ‘Her hustle’, her motherhood abilities and all. Judge your own motherhood skills and whether or not your children will make it (That is plenty of work if you ask me).

If you worry that she is becoming a bad role-model for your kids, censor the television and train your kids the way they should go

Bottom line! Live your own life and stop being so da** hypocritical and if you want to play judge and jury, watch fictional television shows like … Telemundo; plenty of people to judge there.

Now that is said, I can move on to something which is really my business.


Posted by on November 15, 2014 in Uncategorized


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A couple of weeks ago, Dami (My sister’s son) drew a picture of his family, at school. Every time I think of the conversation that ensued, I crack up in laughter. But before I tell the story, a little background information on Dami’s family.

Dami is four years old and has a younger sister, Nina, who is two. Dami lives with his mummy, daddy, sister and Nanny called Esther. Every day after school, Dami goes to his Grandma’s house, where he stays till evening when his parents finish from work. At Grandma’s House, there is Mola, his cousin (Both their mums are sisters, my sisters). Dami and Mola are very close and he calls Mola his brother. There is also Auntie Gbemi (Mola’s mommy), Rita (Mola’s nanny), Patricia (stays with Grandma and helps around the house), Big Daddy (Grandma’s brother who is around on weekdays for work) and occasionally, me (Dami’s Auntie).

Now back to the story, Dami brings his picture from school (Need I say very proud of himself). He has drawn 10 people in it. Two big people, holding hands with three small people on one side and five big people, also holding hands, on the other side (I call them big and small because some are taller than others) . So I ask Dami, ‘who are these? He says ‘My family’.

‘Really’ I say.

‘Can you point out each person to me?’ I ask again.

Happily, Dami starts pointing each person out.

First Five – Mommy, Daddy, Me, my brother, Mola and my sister, Nina (You know its Nina because this person is little with what looks like red curls on her head)

Now the interesting part;

Second five people standing on the other side – Grandma, Auntie Rita (Nanny 1), Auntie Esther (Nanny 2), Auntie Patricia (Nanny 3), and Big Daddy (Grandma’s Brother).

It seemed Dami had drawn everyone in the house as his family. So naturally I wonder why my sister (Mola’s mommy) and I are not in the picture. After all, we are family too and we live in the same house.

So I ask ‘Where are Auntie Gbemi and I?’ to which my adorable nephew looks even more puzzled and answers me ‘If I draw the both of you, I becomes extended family’ (Hahahahaha)

Ha! So all the nannies, grandma and big daddy are part of Dami’s nuclear family but my sister and I are extended family. Never mind that Mola made it into the picture and his mother didn’t.

Considering the people look more like aliens than actual humans (Its safe to say we now know for certain that Dami is not going to be an artist), I don’t know whether I should be grateful that I have been excluded from Dami’s merry NUCLEAR family.

What can I say, “The soul is healed by being with children.”



Posted by on November 14, 2014 in Uncategorized


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Jonathan Goodluck declares his intention to run for Presidency in 2015, please do tell, where exactly is the news? We all knew he was going to run since 2010 when he took over power by chance (Or what looked like chance).

So when the city of Abuja shuts down and one is stuck in undue traffic for what isn’t exactly news, it becomes a nuisance to those who just want to get on with their lives. I accept the fact that PDP is the reigning political party and subsequently, have decided they are entitled to as much noise-making as they deem fit. I even understand that times are hard and politics is the new business venture for every Tom, Dick and Harry, who anticipates that if he follows the reigning party just long enough, he might find favour with one godfather or the other and consequently hit the Jackpot. Never mind that Tom, Dick and Harry may not even believe in the ability of the party or candidate to actually fulfil the obligations of the elected office (Now, I speak in generalisation and not about any person in particular). Read the rest of this entry »

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Posted by on November 11, 2014 in Uncategorized


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