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30ish & Single(Still): Dating Younger Men

‘The best form of Karma when you stand in judgement over other people’s decisions is finding yourself making similar decisions down the line as life throws you, your own curve ball’.

About 5 years ago, I had just started a new job and had to do a mandatory training with 4 other people. Soon, we all got familiar and started discussing personal details about ourselves. Somehow, one of the ladies, who was about 31 at the time mentioned she lived with her boyfriend who was younger than her (Can’t remember how much younger). I must have had a face because the next thing I remember, I was giving my opinion on how I don’t judge women who date younger men but it wasn’t something I could do; absolutely not! (For someone who wasn’t judging, that statement in itself was laced with judgement. I like to believe I am less judgemental these days).

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, over the holidays, I sat down with a dear friend who I hadn’t seen in a bit and we got chatting; playing catch up. Now, you can say that we both fall under the category, 30ish & Single and as expected, our conversation eventually drifted to men and relationships. Read the rest of this entry »


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‘It’s pretty simple, pretty obvious: that people’s first impressions of people are really a big mistake.’ – Vincent D’Onofrio

We can’t help but have impressions about people when we first meet them. Sometimes, these impressions are even formed before the person speaks. However, I think most first impressions are likely to be wrong, mainly because what it is really; is  trying to sum up a rather complex being in the first few minutes of meeting them. Never mind that our first impressions are really just our assumptions based on stereotypical views of some category we think they fall into.

Unfortunately, a lot of decisions, both formal and informal, are motivated by first impressions, hence, we are constantly being defined by characters we do not possess. I only wish that when forming impressions about people, we could all accept that we are likely wrong and give room to actually get to know people before declaring them one way or the other.

On a lighter note, here are some few first impressions people have had about me:

Some people hear the tone of my talking voice and assume I have a good singing voice; try again, my singing voice sounds like a frog croaking endlessly (Just joking, it isn’t that bad).

 Some people assume I am an enthusiastic TGIFier, I am; but only because I am a couch potato (More like a bed hugger) who ENJOYS sleeping through the weekend (Which isn’t what they think).

Some people see my hair and assume I am an artist of some sort. No, am not, I just love dreads and choose to wear my hair this way, never mind that it is easy to carry and no, I do not get tired of it.

Some people assume I am snob, I, most definitely, am not. I just take my time warming up to people and new places. Plus I am an observer.

Most people assume I can’t see the picture of a chubby and cute baby without AWWing, You are right, I most definitely cannot. **wink wink**

Have a great day y’all

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Posted by on August 27, 2015 in Uncategorized


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So I heard somewhere that you can tell about a person’s personality from the flavour of ice cream they like. Really?

My favourite ice-cream flavour is vanilla… and then I hear the expression, boring like vanilla. Say what?

Apparently, just because I like vanilla, it translates to I am boring!

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Posted by on September 1, 2014 in Uncategorized


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I recently had an experience that was both annoying and funny. About a week ago, my colleague and I went into an office to see a prospective client. It was one of those offices where you had to get through the secretary (we had previously met her and she seemed nice enough).

Before I continue, it is important that I describe how the three parties (the secretary, my colleague and I) were dressed (Not very good at descriptions, but will try my best). My colleague is a tall (about “5.8”) lady wearing a high heeled shoe and a knee-length, black dress. Her hair woven back with extensions  (What Nigerians call Ghana weaving) and her face in light make-up (Dare I say, appropriate for a work day).  I was wearing a long tailored trousers, a turtle-neck green top with short sleeves, black front-covered heeled shoe and light makeup as well. The secretary, on the other hand, is probably in her late 40’s or early 50’s, wearing a loose shirt and a black skirt (not too sure about the skirt), no make-up and has her hair, low cut (What my fellow Nigerians would term as the typical ‘Deeper Life’ look. *No criticism intended*). Read the rest of this entry »


Posted by on January 28, 2014 in Uncategorized


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