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30ish & Single(Still): Dating Younger Men

‘The best form of Karma when you stand in judgement over other people’s decisions is finding yourself making similar decisions down the line as life throws you, your own curve ball’.

About 5 years ago, I had just started a new job and had to do a mandatory training with 4 other people. Soon, we all got familiar and started discussing personal details about ourselves. Somehow, one of the ladies, who was about 31 at the time mentioned she lived with her boyfriend who was younger than her (Can’t remember how much younger). I must have had a face because the next thing I remember, I was giving my opinion on how I don’t judge women who date younger men but it wasn’t something I could do; absolutely not! (For someone who wasn’t judging, that statement in itself was laced with judgement. I like to believe I am less judgemental these days).

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, over the holidays, I sat down with a dear friend who I hadn’t seen in a bit and we got chatting; playing catch up. Now, you can say that we both fall under the category, 30ish & Single and as expected, our conversation eventually drifted to men and relationships. Read the rest of this entry »

 
 

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30ish and Single (Still): Ladies, It’s a Leap Year

Leap years are exceptional (Just ask those born on February 29th).  Personally, I think it signifies completeness because it is the year that balances the unevenness of the earth’s rotation around the sun and the calendar. Although, many would say it is just a later date to the February paycheck. Read the rest of this entry »

 
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Posted by on January 2, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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OBSERVATIONS: TIPS FOR TGIF…

 

‘I need to know if you are here with someone because we don’t allow unattached single girls in on a Friday night’.  Said what!

 

It was supposed to be a fun time with the girls. Tania was in town and this provided the perfect excuse for Tami and Maya to do something fun on Friday night. Both girls, cousins and also flatmates (technically, Maya was squatting) managed to find themselves at home, in front of the television every Friday night (or any other night), never mind their elaborate plans in the morning. Tami had been working and living in Abuja for a long time and when Maya got a job that required her to move to Abuja, they were both excited, thinking they could motivate each other in going out more often, but that didn’t go exactly as planned.

Friday night outing hardly ever happened for them and it wasn’t because they didn’t want to, but by the time it was Friday evening, they were both too tired to indulge in the fanfare of sexy clothes, makeup, driving and hitting the bar (or wherever). A quiet night at home in front of the television always seemed too much like heaven in comparison. However, with Tami’s younger sister, Tania, in town for the night, their morale was duly boosted to take a night off their normal routine.

So amidst the tiredness, they decided to have a girl’s night out. They called up Elizabeth to make it a party of four (The more, the merrier they say) and pulled out all the works necessary for every girl going out on a Friday night ; Dress; check! Red lipstick; check! High-heeled shoe; check! Cash; check! (And yes, that is truly where the list ended so get your mind out of the gutters).

Tami and Maya were okay with just a regular bar where they could listen to good music, trade dirty stories and have a good bottle of wine (Okay! Maybe two or three), but Tania wanted to dance so Tami decided to take the girls to a perfect place where everyone could have what they wanted. ‘Drink tavern’ it was called; a mid-scale bar/club with good sitting area out in an open air bungalow; also, an indoor club for Tania and Elizabeth to dance and very important, affordable drinks and meals (it is Abuja after all).

They pulled up to Drink tavern and after a bit of difficulty getting a parking space within the premises, hooped out, all ready to have a good girls night out. With Tami, the designated driver taking the lead, they walked into the bar and boom! It got interesting (relatively).

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Posted by on April 23, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Born Female = A Disadvantage! Really?

About a week ago, I heard the most shocking thing ever and what made it worse, was the fact that it came from someone I respect greatly. It was during a teaching. He had deviated a bit and was talking about how certain social facts of one’s life could define the course of their lives. I couldn’t have agreed more until he said ‘being born a woman is a disadvantage’!

When I heard this, my first reaction was, as you would assume; you said what!!!! Who says something like that? Of course that isn’t true and even if it was, you don’t say it out loud, especially not coming from a man! I felt so offended that I wanted to shout out; hey, wait! Haven’t you heard of all the women in the world who are doing so great? All the women who can contend, withstand and even win the men in their respective professions? Haven’t you heard about Hilary Clinton, Sheryl Sandberg, Sonia Gandhi, Angela Merkel, Dilma Rousseff, Christine Lagarde, Oprah Winfrey, Beyonce Knowles, Geun-hye Park, to mention just a few? These are women whose names ring a bell wherever and whenever. They are not just among the Forbes world 100 most powerful women; they are in a fact among the 100 most powerful people. Let’s bring it back home a bit; there is Ngozi Iweala Okonji (Great woman, both within and outside Nigeria) and Chimamanda Adichie (Again, globally known and appreciated for her works in and out of literature). How then can someone say that being born a woman is a disadvantage? And so, I ranted and raved in my head.

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Posted by on February 4, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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